Partnership: Always a Win-Win

When in a committed partnership, transparency and honesty is crucial in order to make sure both people feel respected with each other’s choices, actions, and decisions.

This is why it’s so important to make sure that, at the beginning of meeting a potential partner, both people articulate their values, beliefs, views, principles and standards.

If principles and standards don’t match up, it’s likely one or both of the people are going to find that one person’s choices are completely fine with themselves, but the other person is going to feel disrespected and/or betrayed.

It’s natural for some things to come up in a relationship where one person didn’t realize they were being disrespectful. When this happens, communication should be honest and safe with each other.

Both people should clearly articulate and explain themselves until they each understand what happened and why, and how the other person feels about it.

And then they should trouble-shoot to find ways to make different or altered choices next time—where both people will feel respected and safe. All choices, decisions, situations and actions should be handled this way in order to creating on-going win-wins for the relationship.

Remember: If one person has a problem in the relationship, both people have a problem. This means the relationship has a problem. As such, both people in the relationship have to work together to solve the problem. Each other’s perspectives must be respected and honored. And always err on the side of making sure neither person feels hurt; err on the side of the higher of standards, dignity, and integrity.

A committed partnership should include an inner-knowing that other person always has your back, considers you, is transparent with you, and is always being respectful and loyal—even when you’re not physically together, and no matter who else is or isn’t around.

This is how trust is built in a relationship.

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