Can’t Relate & Aren’t Protective

When a person cannot relate to

• sensitivity, sincerity, empathy, integrity, intuition, discernment, vulnerability, honesty, transparency, Truth;

• challenges, struggles;

• emotional pain and hurt;

• being betrayed, stonewalled, gaslit, excluded;

• loneliness;

• the importance of having integrity, values, ethics, morals, standards, principles;

• the need to collaborate, communicate, connect, be known and share life with a loved one;

• importance of privacy, sovereignty, liberty & freedom;

• the healing and growing journey;

• wanting to be the best version of oneself

… this is a very bad sign.

When a person isn’t protective of

• self

  • physically, spiritually, emotionally, soul, heart, time, effort, attention, interest, focus, investments, boundaries

• close, intimate relationships

• principles, values, standards, standards & sovereignty

…this is a very bad sign.

By protective, I mean

• hold in high regard

• highly-value as precious

• strong boundaries around

• consider loved ones in all decisions, with integrity & reverence

• hold sacred & exclusive (with & for loved ones): sharing of ideas, feelings, experiences & help

• strong allies

• stand up for

• advocate for

• defend

I could run through the list of all of my disappointing (at best) and/or incredibly-painful (at worst) relationships and friendships I’ve had, and I see that every single one of them were with people who couldn’t relate to me; and who were not protective of me, our relationship and themselves.

It’s pretty flabbergasting that this is topic is spoken of so rarely, if at all, in society. Much of my life I thought something was wrong with me for being so troubled and unsettled by relationships with these sorts of people.

And I’d wonder, “Why can’t I just make this relationship work? Why can’t I figure out how to fix it?”

I didn’t realize I was dealing with an impossible situation:

you simply cannot be close to and allies with unrelating and unprotective people.

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