What is Confidence?

Confidence takes place in our inner core being. It’s an inner peace from deeply knowing that we are okay and will be okay regardless of what happens or who is around. It’s being our own best friend, ally, and proponent in striving to respect and represent ourselves, our lives, and those who we love.

Confidence goes much deeper than our appearance, how we carry ourselves, or impressing others. It is a way of being and a way of life. It’s active and on-going—based on our mindset, decisions, choices, and actions.

We are confident in knowing and being clear about what to stand on and for, what to expose ourselves to, what to eliminate. We are confident because we can trust ourselves, our intuition, and our choices. Knowing we won’t desert ourselves and what matters to us creates confidence.

What is confidence? How is confidence obtained? Confidence is…

• Setting, having and living standards for yourself

  • This list can help you determine what your standards are.

• Knowing

  • who you are

  • your goals

  • your ideas

  • your feelings and emotions

  • what you think about

  • what you choose in each moment

  • why you do what you do and don’t do what you don’t do

  • what you need

  • what you want

  • what you don’t want

  • what matters to you

  • who and what is most important to you

  • your values

  • your ethics and morals

  • your principles

  • your beliefs

  • your gifts, skills and talents

  • your strengths

  • your emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, and energetic limitations

  • your weaknesses and faults

  • your addictions

  • your mistakes

  • what you have to offer relationships

• Being sincere, genuine, trustworthy

• Being honest with yourself and others

• Being accountable and responsible for yourself

  • Learn, grow, heal

  • Admit, correct and repair mistakes

  • Gracefully and gratefully take feedback and input

• Ability to set boundaries

  • Heal core shame issues

  • Stop people-pleasing

    • People-pleasing is inauthentic, and makes you dishonest and untrustworthy.

  • Say “No'“ without the energy of guilt or projecting shame or resentment onto the other person

    • It’s okay to change your mind as long as you are honest about it as soon as you make the decision and gracefully accept the consequences.

  • Learn to articulate yourself with minimal words

  • Only do what you want to do

    • You have to desire to and be responsible, accountable, sincere, genuine, and trustworthy for this to accurately apply.

    • Don’t guilt-trip others (directly or passive-aggressively) for what you do. Do it out of your free-will and personal choice only.

  • Only do what fits into your ethics, morals, principles

  • Only do what fits into, and brings you closer to, your goals

  • Get away from toxic people

  • Get away from people and experiences which bring out the worst in you

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