Being Rejected
I originally wrote this article on March 31, 2014.
If you are offended by someone not wanting you, on whatever level, take a look at what exactly offends you.
Ask yourself these questions:
Do I want to be around someone who doesn’t want me, my work, my opinions, my presence?
Would I rather drag on our relationship until the other person just can’t take any more of me, and end things on a sour note?
Do I think this one person has the authority and power to determine my worth?
Would I rather be with someone who appreciates me and what I have to offer?
Would I be more inspired and free with someone who enjoys me?
Would my energy be better spent on addressing my personal responsibility and well-being?
Does their rejection help me home in a bit more on what I want to feel in my life?
Yes, it can sting a bit when someone you want, or invested time in, isn’t interested in you. I don’t downplay that. But look at this sting separately from what is really going on.
Feel your pain. Be gentle and nurturing with yourself during the time you work through this.
And also recognize how this person is making your life easier and freeing you up for people and things that work out naturally.
Can you appreciate that it takes some guts for that person to be in the position to tell you ‘goodbye’? Aren’t you glad you weren’t the one to have to cut things off?
Can you see how the person is ultimately doing you a favor?
Warmly,