Disappointment

I originally wrote this article on March 29, 2014.

I was asked for suggestions about how to deal with disappointment.

Without knowing specifics, here are some ideas and what’s worked for me:

• Be gentle with yourself. If you are blaming yourself for not knowing better, let that go. You did the best you could with where you were at the time.

• Allow yourself to feel disappointment. Just be with those feelings without making them wrong.

• While you are feeling these feelings, frequently ask yourself, “What am I learning about myself because of this experience? How is this experience helpful in my homing in on what I want and don’t want in my life?”

• Prior to being disappointed, what was it you were hoping for in the circumstance? What feelings did you want to feel? You can trust that there will be other opportunities for you to feel those feelings–don’t limit the source from where the feelings come (i.e. a specific person or specific job or specific car, etc.).

Are you dealing with disappointment right now?  Feel free to contact me to discuss your specific situation.  Let me know if the above list is helpful during your experience.

Warmly,