Duped: Low Maintenance
How I would define someone as ‘low maintenance’ is someone who is sure about who they are, doesn’t put unwelcome demands on people, isn’t intrusive or intense with their energy or actions, and overall manages themselves well.
A way to get duped into thinking someone is low-maintenance is when they are laid-back, game for almost anything you want to do, and is available when you invite them. Their being quiet is also, yet again, another way to dupe you into thinking they are low-maintenance.
What is really underneath their low-maintenance mask could be someone who
has a very active imagination where they mostly reside (grandiose daydreaming & fantasy)
has a double life, a double identity, a secret self which they won’t let you see
doesn’t see you differently than any other person who notices them or who they can use on whatever level (even if only in their imagination)
don’t worry, you’re not special to them
you’re not the only one they do this with
is actually very needy and co-dependent, but spreads out their needs over an endless number of their victims (objects of their attention)
is a chameleon, mask-wearer, to fool you
is very lazy
mostly enjoys the effortlessness of being a tag-along, coattail rider, third-wheel
disguises this as being nice, agreeable, adaptable and accommodating
has low standards for themselves and their time
values quantity over quality
having cheap thrills is always their mission
always is open to anything that effortlessly falls into their lap
likely harbors a lot of rage inside of them
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