He/She’s Just Not That into You, Vice Versa

Here’s a tough pill to swallow. But getting out of denial is crucial to healing.

When we find we are in a challenging relationship which

• brings out the worst in us

• makes authentic and honest communication seem impossible

• frequently involves the other person testing and triggering us

• requires us to manage the relationship alone

• prompts us to beg and plead

• motivates us try every single angle to make things work, to no avail

• prompts us to shut down out of dead ends and hopelessness

… it quite possibly is due to the other person just not being that into us.

When two people want a relationship to work, both will do all they can to have honest and authentic communication, understanding, and collaboration. When this is not the case, we should sincerely look at if the other person just isn’t into us.

And even if the other person is into us, but for whatever reason they just can’t cooperate and collaborate, the experience with them isn’t much different than their not being that into us. They very obviously aren’t working towards being close to and relating with us. We can’t get blood out of a turnip.

This realization can save so much energy, time, emotional pain, and mental anguish.

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