Omission Excuse: Forgetfulness
Omitting information is a form of lying—especially when the information is important to a task or job, or within a relationship.
I wrote about the lying-by-omission excuse with the claim of their not sharing the information to be because ‘it didn’t mean anything.’
Another form of lying-by-omission is forgetfulness. When the statements, ‘I forgot’ or ‘I can’t remember all of that’ come up frequently pertaining information which helps define a person’s character (via their choices, interests, focus and attention, needs, exposure, etc.) as well as any other applicable information which should be shared in a relationship or job, this can be considered a form of lying.
If the person is well-aware of information you value and want to know, there’s almost no excuse for this.
Unless a person really does have memory issues, unless this person requests advice for remembering to share information, likely this lying-by-omission due to forgetfulness is because the person
doesn’t think you deserve to know the information
doesn’t consider you to be very important
rarely thinks about or considers you
is passive-aggressively trying to punish you
is consumed with their very active imagination, & doesn’t notice real life much—including you
lives a double life
is immature & doesn’t value the purpose & importance of sharing information
If you’re in a relationship with, or work with, someone like this, stop needing the information they have. This includes for you to stop trying to get to know them. Their lying to you is all the information you need to know about their character and ethics.
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