Perfection Not Required with Transparency & Honesty
One trait of codependency could be pressure a person feels to be viewed as ‘perfect’ to other people—which, of course, is an unattainable and futile goal.
Some immature people might snap at you, ‘You think you’re so perfect!’
I myself have been told that. But I’ve done enough inner work to know that I’m not perfect and don’t even have perfection on my radar.
What I have learned is that perfection isn’t required in a relationship, both with myself and with others, when I am transparent and honest.
When I am close to someone, I find it to be very freeing to be able to share all of me with another person: the good, the bad and the ugly. I share my mistakes, my struggles, my current inner work challenges. I share where I keep getting hung up and keep screwing up, and why. And I continue to strive to see what I can’t currently see and to be my best self.
See? You don’t have to be perfect when you’re transparent and honest. And sincere.