Relationship: Are You an Audience Member or A Co-Creator?

It’s easy to figuratively sit in the audience and admire a person from that vantage point: how s/he appears to act, live and work: talents and abilities, tastes and preferences, relationships, interactions, material goods, image, reputation, and so on.

What isn’t as easy with another person is to co-create, and to:

• create connection

• establish consensus

• be emotionally, physically and spiritually available and reachable

• get to know each other on a deep, emotional level

• collaborate

• trouble-shoot and brain-storm

• communicate

• consider each other in choices

• confide in each other

• trust

• be dedicated

• be vulnerable

• take and consider feedback

• spend significant time together

• involve each other in other areas of your lives

• protect each other and the relationship

• establish boundaries with each other and others

This is why I recommend using discernment and self-awareness when choosing to get involved with a person. Are you signing up to be a fan in the audience, or do you sincerely want to co-create with this person? If you want to co-create, does the other person want to co-create with you? Be sure to let the other person know your intentions as to which you want and be willing to hear the truth.

Here are some related posts on the topic of being an audience member:

• ‘Armchair Quarterback’ Admiration of People

• When You’re Late in the Game

• Interest in Categories, Not Individuals

• Living Double Lives or as Co-business Owners

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