Relationship Loyalty in Work Environment

When deciding to be involved and share a deep connection with someone, transparency and honesty are crucial. Asking and answering direct questions about beliefs and choices is appropriate. If the other person gets offended or avoidant about this, take note of this huge red flag.

A full-time job entails a large portion of a person’s life. If you want a full-disclosure about who a person is (and to be known by the other person by your sharing this information too), here is a very direct, slippery-and-dodge-resistant list to use to get a lot of information as to what the person believes and how he/she lives while at work.

Additionally, these questions are applicable to any other slots of time and locations when the two of you are not together. (Pay attention also to what the other person seems to choose even when you are together.)

• Tell me exactly what, if anything, is false (and how and why it is false), for you in the following statements:

  • If anyone wants your attention, you give it to them.

  • Anything that goes on at work or with coworkers, happens in a sort of bubble or vacuum, and doesn't apply to life away from work or away from coworkers. In other words, if it happens at work or with coworkers, it's like it's not really happening and it doesn't count.

  • When you are at work or dealing with coworkers, you are totally innocent and free of personal responsibility and accountability--no matter what you do, give attention to, give away, share, expose yourself to, and participate in at work or with coworkers.

  • Anything is acceptable at work or with coworkers because whatever happens at work or with coworkers falls under the category of "work."

• What in the TV show The Office do you consider to be inappropriate in your own job, work setting, and with coworkers?

• What is inappropriate as a single person and what is inappropriate as a person in a relationship? What is inappropriate for a single person dealing with a person in a relationship?

Can you think of anything to add to this list?

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